My Letter to the Dr

(I have been working on this letter to the Dr. that made me upset. I wrote this so I can forget about this Dr. forever. This letter will be going to the Dr. on June 29th the day of Danny's 1 year anniversary. So if you have any comments about this let me know. Thank you for the time you take to read this letter.) I left his name out...
Thanks Ginger




Dear Dr.

I have been thinking a lot since Danny passed away.
I really do not understand
the way you could treat me and my family the day Danny passed away.
That Monday morning June 29th I was so angry with you.
The way you treat Allen and me was so not the way you should of handled things.
When I asked you if the machines were keeping him alive you told me it's supporting him.
But when I asked you again and told you this is not what Danny wanted you looked at
me and walked away. Do you know how that made me feel the you could not tell me the truth.
Allen and I trusted you and you let us down. You made me feel like all Danny was a ginny pig to see
if that medicine would help you out not Danny.

How can you live with yourself knowing that a family
feels this way. It make me think did we make the right chosie to do this.
And another thing that has been bugging me is that Hilary called me in Danny room that Saturday
before Danny passed away and told me that I should not listen to the ICU doctors and nurses they are very negative.. There is always hope. That's not good to tell a parent that the doctors and nurses down there was negative. You guys made us feel we shouldn't listen to anyone in ICU.
I think that both teams should of work together and told the truth all the time.
In fact you guys made me feel not to listen to them when they were telling
us the truth all the time and not saying there is always hope.
You handle things way to wrong I really wished I would of taken Danny to another doctor
that gave us the facts and not hope.
I did have hope that things would have been different. But I lost HOPE on the way you guys treated us the way you did.

I have to let you know that my son Aaron feels he killed his brother because you guys
didn't once talk to him about what was happening to his brother. He told me mom maybe if I
didn't give him my Bone Marrow he would still be here.
Do you know how that make us feel that he feels he hurt his brother.
When the fact he was Danny hero.
So tell me how to tell my son that he didn't kill his brother.






You ask why am I writing you, Well I think if I let you know how I am feeling maybe I can heal
a little better. And remember Danny for being a Hero and what he stands for.
He is and will always be a wonderful young man full of spirt and fight. I love this Danny with
all my heart. He will never be forgotten.
For the last 3 years he went through this cancer with
fight.

I hope that one day my hurt for losing my wonderful Danny will ease a little but I know it will always be there because he will not be around
for all the important things that our family will go through.
But I want you to know that me hating you for the way you treated us will go away.
I want you to know that you can not treat family like you two did.
We trusted you guys with our Danny and you let us down.

Today has been 1 years since we last saw our Danny.
And we have missed him so much.
He has not been here for a lot of important things in our family this last year.




Josh has join the Air Force and he missed him graduate.
Aaron has graduated from High School and is going to miss Aaron be
State Master Councilor in DeMolay.
Also his dad is going to be Grand Master of Masons in Utah.
And as for me I have a hole in my family that I am trying to heal.
It's going to take a long time or maybe forever to fix it.
But with me knowing that you know now how I am feeling will make me feel a little better.

I just hope that one day when you have to go through this agin with another family you will remember to be honest and listen to the family .
Because the families are going through a lot to know that they are losing their child.
In the end of Danny's life we felt you were not there for us.
So I hope now you understand where Allen and I are thinking
and I hope that one day CANCER will go away and not hurt any other families again.

Thank you for your time
Ginger Record